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Tentang Mixtape "Your Sister Just Wanna Have Fun"


Halo, sebagai pengantar saja, tulisan ini kubuat sebagai lampiran dari mixtape yang kususun. Kupikir selain menikmati lagunya, membaca lirik selalu sama pentingnya. Sebenarnya ini hanya proyek suka-suka dalam bentuk zine, tapi saya juga ingin membagikannya di sini. Lagu-lagu ini sering kuputar, sembari membaca buku-buku tentang feminisme, semacam pemberi semangat saat saya mulai malas belajar. Saya ingin terlibat dalam mewujudkan kesetaraan, saya ingin melihat semua perempuan merasa aman dan nyaman melakukan apapun yang ia senangi, makanya saya tidak ingin berhenti belajar, sebab kupikir semua harus dimulai dari mengedukasi diri sendiri. Saya pernah menulis tentang hal ini di sini.

Saya juga masih sedih sih beberapa gigs musik masih ada saja yang membuat cewek-cewek tidak nyaman karena ada oknum yang dengan sengaja menyentuh bagian tubuh perempuan tanpa seizinnya.



Terus tambah sedih juga sama orang yang beranggapan “Salah sendiri, kenapa masih mau ke gigs? Itu resiko pasti disentuh!” 

Hey! Kamu pikir kami tidak bisa membedakan sentuhan yang disengaja dengan tidak? 

Kupikir bukan hanya di gigs, di mana pun, masih sering terjadi pelecehan seksual. Padahal kami hanya ingin bersenang-senang, sama seperti kalian. Menikmati musik, berdansa, berjoget, bergoyang...



Oh ya, kamu bisa membaca tulisan ini sambil mendengar mixtape saya di sini atau kamu bisa meng-copy filenya dalam bentu MP3 dengan menemui saya.



Selamat membaca dan mendengarkan.



 1.       Saya memilih lagu Kitana untuk bagian awal karena saat kecil Kitana juga adalah tokoh favorit saya jika main game Mortal Kombat. Saya suka warna biru dari situ, karena pakaian Kitana sangat keren dan sexy menurutku. Kali pertama mendengar lagu Princess Nokia (yang nama aslinya sebenarnya jauh lebih keren : Destiny Frasqueri) berjudul Tomboy saya langsung jatuh cinta sama dia. Lebih kerennya teryata dia bersama teman-temannya punya saluran radio "Smart Girl Club"



“Kitana” Princess Nokia - 2017



Yeah, hoe!
Kitana, Kitana, Kitana, Kitana
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!

Kitana, Kitana, Kitana, Kitana
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!

I step in this bitch and I do what I want
I don't give a damn and I don't give a fuck (yeah, hoe!)
I step in this bitch and I do what I want
I don't give a damn and I don't give a fuck

Princess Nokia, you can call me on my cellular
I think I'm the shit and I never been a regular
Rhymes I spit are sick, see you bleeding from your jugular
You can suck my dick, all them shady fucks that set me up
Up in the crib, I'm up in the show
I'm doing my thing like never before
I'm rocking and dropping and hitting the floor
I give you the goodies, the goodies, let go

Pop, lock, and drop it
Pop, lock, and drop it

Play them games like Atari, Mortal Kombat like Kitana
He be hoping that I call him, he just wanna call me mama
Call ya back mañana, I ain't with it with ya drama
You are not my problem, I ain't with it with ya drama

I done told yo ass don't call me no more because I'm in a session right now

Kitana, Kitana, Kitana, Kitana
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!

Kitana, Kitana, Kitana, Kitana
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!

I step in this bitch and I do what I want
I don't give a damn and I don't give a fuck
I step in this bitch and I do what I want
I don't give a damn and I don't give a fuck

Ain't got no hair on my tongue
Got no reason to run
Yeah, my words are the reasons that I'll never use guns
I just wanna have fun and to live without fear
I put the ground to the ear and claimed that this was my year
I keep my speech on fleek while these bitches fake deep
You don't practice, you preach
I get applause when I speak
It's a difference for me, people coming for me
I gotta show them that heat so they regret how they be
They take advantage of me, and I'ma put them to sleep
You never shit where you eat when you was eating for free
I really say what I do and ain't got nothing to prove
Prefer the sweetheart chick to my bitch attitude
People did me they dirt when I sat and did work
They just tryna take my picture, they don't care 'bout my worth
But I'm still gon' pray, enemies every day
'Cause it's really up to God come judgement day

Kitana, Kitana, Kitana, Kitana
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!

Kitana, Kitana, Kitana, Kitana
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!
Mortal Kombat, I'll see you mañana!

I step in this bitch and I do what I want
I don't give a damn and I don't give a fuck
I step in this bitch and I do what I want
I don't give a damn and I don't give a fuck (yeah, hoe!)



2.       Rusty Warren adalah komedian yang juga aktris Amerika. Saya suka lagu ini karena saya juga tidak begitu suka menggunakan bra. Tahun 2013 saya pernah membuat doodle bra di tumblr ku setelah membaca sejarah panjang mengenai bra. Saya bukannya tidak bermoral (dan bicara tentang moral tentu adalah perdebatan panjang). Bermoral atau tidak, saya hanya ingin bernapas lega tanpa kekangan bra yang menyiksa.  


“Bounce Your Boobies”  Rusty Warren - 1961

You know girls, it's great to live in a democracy today, where freedom is everywhere.
But girls, we often take this freedom for granted: freedom of speetch, freedom of thougt, and freedom of action.
But you know gals, just became a bunch af men signed that Declaration Of Independence in 1776, dosen't mean that freedom was for men alone.
But gals, I wonder, do we?
I think it's time that we women thought about it a bit.
Hell, I think it's time we did something about it.
So come on, fellow females of the 20th century!
Be glad that you're an American!
Proclain your freedom!
Stand at attention!
Pledge Allegiance!
And ..."
Loosen the bras that binds you!
Take it if you feel like it!
Come on, bounce your boobies, let'em

ROCK'
N'
ROLL!


3.       Selanjutnya lagu dari Loretta Lynn. Lagu ini sempat menjadi lagu yang kontroversial pada tahun 1975. Silahkan cari lebih sendiri lebih lengkap apa yang terjadi pada masa itu namun yang pasti lagu ini adalah perayaan dari perspektif seorang wanita yang baru saja mendapatkan kontrol atas kesehatan reproduksinya melalui akses untuk mengontrol kelahiran. Kupikir sekarang sudah tidak terlalu relevan bagi kaum urban, namun di pedesaan tetap saja masih ada perempuan yang tidak mampu memiliki akses untuk mengontrol kelahiran bayinya. Bersyukurlah bagi yang punya pasangan yang mau diajak bekerja sama melakukan “KB Alami”, atau mau menggunakan kondom. Sebab menggunakan pil dan sejenisnya tidak selamanya aman dan cocok untuk tiap perempuan.  


“The Pill” Loretta Lynn 1975

You wined me and dined me
When I was your girl
Promised if I'd be your wife
You'd show me the world
But all I've seen of this old world
Is a bed and a doctor bill
I'm tearin' down your brooder house
'Cause now I've got the pill
All these years I've stayed at home
While you had all your fun
And every year that's gone by
Another babys come
There's a gonna be some changes made
Right here on nursery hill
You've set this chicken your last time
'Cause now I've got the pill



This old maternity dress I've got
Is goin' in the garbage
The clothes I'm wearin' from now on
Won't take up so much yardage
Miniskirts, hot pants and a few little fancy frills
Yeah I'm makin' up for all those years
Since I've got the pill

I'm tired of all your crowin'
How you and your hens play
While holdin' a couple in my arms
Another's on the way
This chicken's done tore up her nest
And I'm ready to make a deal
And ya can't afford to turn it down
'Cause you know I've got the pill


This incubator is overused
Because you've kept it filled
The feelin' good comes easy now
Since I've got the pill
It's gettin' dark it's roostin' time
Tonight's too good to be real
Oh but daddy don't you worry none
'Cause mama's got the pill
Oh daddy don't you worry none
'Cause mama's got the pill





4.       Lagu berikut pertama kali kudengar justru yang dibawakan oleh Le Tigre. Belakangan baru tahu ternyata lagu itu memang lagu kolaborasi bersama Yoko Ono pada album “Yes I’m a Witch” pada tahun 2007. Lagu aslinya ini direkam bersama John lennon dalam album Sometime in New York City pada tahun 1972. Pernah dengar kabar kalau lagu ini dipakai buat mendukung kampanye calon presiden Hillary Clinton tapi saya tidak begitu percaya, mau verifikasi tapi jauh juga. Jika kabar itu benar, memang mengecewakan. Tapi dari awal saya tidak terlalu banyak berharap kok sama Le Tigre maupun Yoko Ono secara personal. Toh urusan politik adalah urusan personal. Yang pasti lagu ini memang asik dan memang membangkitkan semangat untuk menolong sesama, terutama saudar-saudara perempuan yang kadang masih ragu untuk membicarakan kebutuhannya, tentang impiannya, tentang keluh kesahnya mengenai hubungan seksual yang tidak nyaman, dan banyak lagi masalah-masalah perempuan lainnya. 


“Sisters, O Sisters” by Yoko Ono 

O sisters, O sisters, let's stand up right now
It's never too late to start from the start

Sisters, sisters
Sisters, sisters

Wisdom, O wisdom, that's what we ask for
And yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to ask
Freedom, O freedom, that's what we fight for
And yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to fight

Sisters, sisters
Sisters, sisters



Freedom, freedom
Freedom, freedom
Freedom, freedom

New world, O new world, that's what we live for
And yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to live



Sisters, sisters
Sisters, sisters

Sisters, sisters
Sisters, sisters



5.       Beberapa minggu belakangan saya meluangkan waktu mendengar musik-musik jazz. Billie Holiday salah satu nama yang paling banyak direkomendasikan oleh mesin pencari (tentu saja Nina Simone tidak luput). Lagu berikut sekilas nampak seperti sebuah lagu patah hati setelah ditolak sang kekasih namun Angela Davis (aktivis sosial dan penulis) manganalisa bahwa lagu ini tentang penindasan sistemik tentang rasisme dan seksisme. 


“You Let Me Down” Billie Holiday - 1936

You told me that I was like an angel
Told me I was fit to wear a crown
So that you could get a thrill
You put me on a pedestal
And then you let me down, let me down.

You told me that I'd be wearing diamonds
I would have the smartest car in town
Made me think that I'm the top
And then you let the ladder drop
You know you let me down, let me down

I walked upon a rainbow
I clung onto a star
You had me up in heaven
That's why I had to tall so far

I was even looking for a cottage
I was measured for a wedding gown
That how I got cynical
You put me on a pinnacle
And then you let me down, let me down
How you let me down


6.       Kalau lagu yang satu ini mungkin kalian semua sudah tahu meski band ini tidak betahan lama. Setelah Bikini Kill bubar, Kathleen Hanna masih tetap berkarya lewat Le Tigre. Tetap asik juga sih, apalagi bagi telinga saya yang seleranya sesuai generasi : milenial. 


“Rebel Girl” Bikini Kill - 1993

That girl thinks she's the queen of the neighborhood
She's got the hottest trike in town
That girl she holds her head up so high
I think I want to be her best friend, yeah



Rebel girl rebel girl
Rebel girl you are the queen of my world
Rebel girl rebel girl
I think I want to take you home
I want to try on your clothes



When she talks, I hear the revolution
In her hips, there's revolutions
When she walks, the revolution's coming
In her kiss, I taste the revolution!



Rebel girl rebel girl
Rebel girl you are the queen of my world
Rebel girl rebel girl
I know I want to take you home
I want to try on your clothes



That girl thinks she's the queen of the neighborhood
I got news for you, she is!
They say she's a dyke but I know
She is my best friend yeah



Rebel girl rebel girl
Rebel girl you are the queen of my world
Rebel girl rebel girl
I know I want to take you home
I want to try on your clothes



Love you like a sister, always
Soul sister, blood sister
Come and be my best friend, really
Rebel girl
I really like you, I really want to be your best friend
Be my rebel girl

 

7.       Setelah peluncuran film Dead Squad lagu ini kembali populer. Sebelumnya juga sudah banyak yang nyanyikan ulang, termasuk Joan Jett, Eminem, Selena Gomez, masih banyak lagi. Lagu ini juga cukup sering menjadi mars aktivis feminis. Namun saya sendiri masih bertanya-tanya, selang 3 bulan setelah lagu ini rilis pada bulan Desember 1963, Lesley Gore meluncurkan lagu baru yang liriknya justru berkebalikan dari lagu ini, judulnya "That's the Way Boys Are". Entah ada apa...



“You Don’t Own Me” Lesley Gore - 1963


You don't own me
I'm not just one of your many toys,
You don't own me
Don't say I can't go with other boys

And don't tell me what to do,
and don't tell me what to say,
and please when I go out with you,
don't put me on display,

You don't own me ,
Don't try to change me in any way,
You don't own me,
Don't tie me down caz i'll never stay,

I don't tell you what to say,
I don't tell you what to do,
So just let me be myself,
That's all I ask of you,

I'm young and I love to be young,
I'm free and I love to be free,
To live my life the way I want,
To say and do whatever I please. 



9.       Selanjutnya Gwen Stefani menulis lagu berikut saat masih bersama band-nya No Doubt. Kupikir ini tidak perlu banyak pengantar yah.



“Just Girl” No Doubt 1995



Take this pink ribbon off my eyes
I'm exposed
And it's no big surprise
Don't you think I know
Exactly where I stand
This world is forcing me
To hold your hand


'Cause I'm just a girl, little ol' me
Well don't let me out of your sight
Oh, I'm just a girl, all pretty and petite
So don't let me have any rights
Oh, I've had it up to here!

The moment that I step outside
So many reasons
For me to run and hide
I can't do the little things
I hold so dear
'Cause it's all those little things
That I fear



'Cause I'm just a girl
I'd rather not be
'Cause they won't let me drive
Late at night
Oh I'm just a girl
Guess I'm some kind of freak
'Cause they all sit and stare
With their eyes
Oh I'm just a girl
Take a good look at me
Just your typical prototype
Oh, I've had it up to here!



Oh, am I making myself clear?

I'm just a girl
I'm just a girl in the world
That's all that you'll let me be!

Oh I'm just a girl, living in captivity
Your rule of thumb
Make me worry some
Oh I'm just a girl, what's my destiny?
What I've succumbed to
Is making me numb


Oh I'm just a girl, my apologies
What I've become is so burdensome
Oh I'm just a girl, lucky me
Twiddle-dum there's no comparison

Oh, I've had it up to!
Oh, I've had it up to!!
Oh, I've had it up to here





10.   Nama Sophia George cukup dikenal di Jamaika sejak lagu ini rilis. Saya sangat suka lagu ini karena enak dijadikan latar buat joget bebas. Saya suka menonton video-video klipnya karena sangat sederhana dan memperlihatkan suasana kita di Jamaika pada saat itu.



“Girlie Girlie” Sophia George - 1998



“Young man you too girlie girlie
You jus a flash it round the worldie
Young man you too girlie girlie
You jus a flash it round the worldie.
Him have one up here
One down there
One in Hannover
One down a vere.
One she's a lawyer
One she's a doctor
One wen dem work with a little contractor.
One down a east
One down a west
Him have one up north and two down south

One a sell cigarettes on the roundabout - lord.
Young man you too girlie girlie
You jus a flash it round the worldie
. . .
Him have one go a school
One gawn fool fool
Him have one everytime me say she thinks a she rules
One she a nurse she say she come first
The other night them going out dem pick her new purse.
One a sell star
One work in a bar
A she can smile when the two a dem a spar
One gettie gettie
One frettie frettie
And him no drink no other milk but Betty.
You too girlie girlie
You jus a flash it round the worldie
. . .
You too girlie girlie
You jus a flash it round the worldie
. . .
Young man you too girlie girlie
You jus a flash it round the worldie
. . .
Him have one up here
One down there
. . .
One a go a school and one fool fool.
You too girlie girlie
You jus a flash it round the worldie
. . .
A big fat one who a go go dancer
A little slim one who's a radio announcer.
One highty highty
One flighty flighty
And before him grow old he want one a North Pole.
One in a London
One in a Japan
One in a Scotland
One in a Finland
One in a Taiwan
One in a Iran
One in a Greenland
One in a Iceland.
One in Canada
One Uganda
One America
One Cuba
One Antigua
One Grenada
One a China
And one India.
One Bolivia
One Torguga
One a Ghana
One Ethiopia
One Russia
One Syberia
One a Syria
One Tanzania.
One Australia
One Aruba
One Asia
One Australia.
Young man you too girlie girlie
You jus a flash it round the worldie.



11.   Awalnya saya jarang menyimak lagu-lagu Beyonce. Dulu saya lebih suka Shakira. Saya mulai suka Beyonce sejak lagunya Run The World sampai semua lagunya di album Lemonade hehehe...



“Grown Woman” Beyonce 2014


I remember being young and so brave
I knew what I needed
I was spending all my nights and days laid back day dreaming
Look at me I'm a big girl now, said I'm gon' do something
Told the world I would paint this town
Now bitches I run this

'Cause I put it (down like that, put down like that)
And I'm making (all these racks, a-all these racks)
And I'm moving (round like that, round like that)
When I do it (I don't look back, d-don't look back)

I'm a grown woman
I can do whatever I want
I'm a grown woman
I can do whatever I want (I can do whatever I want)



They love the way I walk
'Cause I walk with a vengeance
And they listen to me when I talk 'cause I ain't pretending
It took a while, now I understand just where I'm goin'
I know the world and I know who I am, it's 'bout time I show it

I'm a grown woman (I'm a grown woman)
I can do whatever I want (I can do whatever I want)
I'm a grown woman (I'm a grown woman)
I can do whatever I want (I can do whatever I want)

I can be bad if I want
I can fire what I want
I can live fast if I want
I can go slow all night long
I'm a grown woman
I do whatever I want



I'm a grown woman, then I know that I got it (got it , got it)
I'm a grown woman, I got the world in my pockets
I'm a grown woman, look down, got you so excited
I really wanna know if you got it like that
'Cause you got a cute face and a booty so fat
Go girl, she got that bomb, that bomb
That girl, will get whatever she wants
That girl, she got that tight, that tight
Them boys, will do whatever she like

I'm a grown woman

I'm a grown woman

I'm a grown woman
I can do whatever I want (I can do whatever I want)

I'm a grown woman
I can do whatever I want (I'm a grown)



12.   Kupikir lagu berikut juga tidak butuh pengantar, semua orang tahu, perempuan dan laki-laki sama-sama ingin bersenang-senang.

"Girls Just Want To Have Fun" Cyndi Lauper 1979


I come home in the morning light
My mother says, "When you gonna live your life right?"
Oh, mother dear, we're not the fortunate ones
And girls they want to have fun
Oh girls just want to have fun

The phone rings in the middle of the night
My father yells, "What you gonna do with your life?"
Oh, daddy dear, you know you're still number one
But girls they want to have fun
Oh girls just want to have

That's all they really want
Some fun
When the working day is done
Oh girls, they want to have fun
Oh girls just want to have fun

Some boys take a beautiful girl
And hide her away from the rest of the world
I want to be the one to walk in the sun
Oh girls they want to have fun
Oh girls just want to have

That's all they really want
Some fun
When the working day is done
Oh girls, they want to have fun
Oh girls just want to have fun(Girls they wanna)
(Wanna have fun)
(Girls wanna have)

They just wanna, they just wanna
(Girls, girls just wanna have fun)
They just wanna, they just wanna have fun
Girls, girls just wanna have fun

(They just wanna, they just wanna)
They just wanna, they just wanna
They just wanna, they just wanna
(Girls, girls just wanna have fun)
Girls, girls just wanna have fun

When the workin'
When the workin' day is done
Oh when the workin' day is done
Oh girls, girls just wanna have fun

They just wanna, they just wanna
They just wanna, they just wanna
Oh girls, girls just wanna have fun

(They just wanna, they just wanna)
When the workin'
(They just wanna, they just wanna)
When the workin' day is done
(Girls, girls just wanna have fun)
When the working day is done
Oh girl, girls just wanna have fun

(They just wanna, they just wanna)
Yeah, yeah, yeah



13.   Sebagai penutup saya memilih lagu Kesha karena lebih fresh, baru dirilis beberapa hari lalu. Sebenarnya masih ada banyak pilihan lagu, tapi untuk kali ini menurutku cukup mewakili. Sampai jumpa pada mixtape selanjutnya.



“Woman” Kesha ft. The Dap-Kings Horns - 2017




Let's be serious, come on
This is a real, this is, excuse me?
Ok, shut up

I buy my own things, I pay my own bills
These diamond rings, my automobiles
Everything I got, I bought it
Boys can't buy my love, buy my love, yeah
I do what I want (she does), say what you say
I work real hard every day




I'm a motherfucking woman, baby, alright
I don't need a man to be holding me too tight
I'm a motherfucking woman, baby, that's right
I'm just having fun with my ladies here tonight
I'm a motherfucker
Mmm, yeah

Let's drive around town in my Cadillac
Girls in the front, boys in the back
Loosey as a goosey and we're looking for some fun

I'm a motherfucking woman, baby, alright
I don't need a man to be holding me too tight
I'm a motherfucking woman, baby, that's right
I'm just having fun with my ladies here tonight
I'm a motherfucker
Mmm, yeah



Mmm, yeah
Don't buy me a drink, I make my money
Don't touch my weave, don't call me "honey"
'Cause I run my shit, baby
(I run my shit)
Don't buy me a drink, I make my money
Don't touch my weave, don't call me "honey"
('Cause I write this shit, baby)
I write my shit
Don't buy me a drink, I make my money
Don't touch my weave, don't call me "honey"
('Cause I run my shit, baby, I run my shit)
Don't buy me a drink, I make my money
Don't touch my weave, don't call me "honey"
'Cause I run my shit, baby, I run my shit
Don't buy me a drink, I make my money
Don't touch my weave, don't call me "honey"
I run this shit, baby, I run this shit
Don't buy me a drink, I make my money
Don't touch my weave, don't call me "honey"
('Cause I write this shit, baby, I write this shit)

I'm a motherfucking woman, baby, alright
I don't need a man to be holding me too tight
I'm a motherfucking woman, baby, that's right
I'm just having fun with my ladies here tonight
I'm a motherfucker
Mmm, yeah

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Bukan Tentang Rina Nose Yang Memutuskan Melepas Hijab

Saya menulis catatan ini setelah lama berpikir mengenai komentar mama dan tanteku di facebook kemarin sore atas tulisan Lailatul Fitriyah yang saya share. Keduanya berkomentar bahwa mereka tidak paham apa yang dituliskan Laila, bahasanya tingkat tinggi. Tulisan itu berjudul : Obsesi Terhadap Hijab adalah Produk Westernisasi. Dalam keluarga, saya adalah cucu pertama yang berkuliah di kota Makassar, saya baru menyadari percuma jika saya merasa terdukasi dengan cukup baik namun tidak bisa menyampaikan apa yang saya dapatkan kepada keluarga saya. Well, setelah memutuskan untuk membuka jilbab, dengan pertimbangan selama beberapa tahun, saya pikir dengan alasan “Ini hak saya, dosa dan amal adalah urusan saya dengan Tuhan” sudah cukup untuk menjawab pertanyaan orang-orang di sekelilingku terutama keluarga. Saya juga sudah pernah menuliskan ceritanya di sini . Tapi ternyata tidak. Mereka masih bertanya-tanya, mulai berasumsi macam-macam, ada yang bilang saya terlalu stress. Mung...

Tentang Keinginan Nona Merasa Nyaman dan Aman di Lantai Dansa

Sejak kecil saya senang menari. Kupikir dari sabang sampai merauke kita punya tradisi menari masing-masing sejak lama. Namun semakin beranjak remaja, sebagai anak perempuan, saya mulai diwanti-wanti menjaga tubuh. Tidak boleh ini itu demi "menjaga diri". Terlebih menari, harus dikurangi. Menari, berdansa, berjoget, apapun pilihan katanya, itu adalah aktivitas menyenangkan. Dan sejak kecil saya selalu membayangkan betapa menyenangkannya berada di tengah dancefloor. Tapi tidak semudah itu untuk merasakan nyamannya berdansa bagi anak perempuan. Saat beranjak dewasa saya pernah mendengar petuah seperti ini "Jangan ke diskotik, laki-laki menganggap perempuan yang ke sana adalah perempuan tidak benar, jadi mereka seenaknya akan meraba-raba tubuhmu." Dan saya mendengar ketika pelecehan seksual terjadi di lantai dansa banyak orang yang akan menyalahkan korban "Ya kalau tidak mau disentuh jangan bergabung." Tapi kupikir kita semua bisa m...